Real Talk is…
A sexual health initiative aimed at people living with cognitive disabilities. Our operational funding is provided by a federal grant from the Public Health Agency of Canada.
We’re operated by Burnaby Association for Community Inclusion, posAbilities, and Kinsight.
Our leadership team is comprised of Certified Sexual Health Educators with extensive experience in the community living sector.
Real Talk’s work aims to be…
An affirmation that all people have a sexuality
Adults with cognitive disabilities are experiencing their own sexuality, but may not be getting information or acknowledgement about this experience.
Every human being – whether sexually active or not – has a sexuality. It’s part of being human. Sexuality can bring connection, isolation, joy, trauma, pleasure, guilt, excitement… often it’s a combination of things.
What if we affirmed this experience instead of avoiding the subject?
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A conversation about dating, love, relationships and sex
Open communication about sex and relationships improves interpersonal skills, increases the chances of positive romantic relationships for those who want them, and reduces the risk of STIs and sexual abuse.
Sexualized imagery is prevalent in our society, but real talk about sexuality is often absent. What if we started talking?
A celebration of the sexuality of adults with cognitive disabilities
Often the subject of sexuality arises for adults with cognitive disabilities because a problem occurs – perhaps someone is acting in ways that bother people, or perhaps abuse has happened. What message are we sending by waiting until a problem arises before talking to people with cognitive disabilities about sexuality?
What if information on the topic was provided proactively?
What if instead of being a problem, it was framed as a celebration?
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What People Are Saying…
![John Woods](https://www.real-talk.org/wp-content/uploads/2024/02/Joh-Credentialed.png)
John Woods
John Woods has worked in the community living sector since 1992, and with Burnaby Association for Community Inclusion since 1997. He is also a Certified Sexual Health Educator. John founded Real Talk in 2017, and is the organization’s manager. John also works with Options for Sexual Health in their Education department. John holds a BA from the University of Manitoba. In his free time he enjoys running, biking, and composing music.
![Kelsey Savage](https://www.real-talk.org/wp-content/uploads/2024/02/Kelsey-cerdentialed.png)
Kelsey Savage
Kelsey Savage began her training in sexual health education in 2014. Since then, she has become a Certified Sexual Health Educator, and worked independently in elementary schools, high schools, and international schools across the Lower Mainland. For half a decade, she managed the Options for Sexual Health Vancouver Clinic at BC Women’s Hospital, and has been part of the Real Talk team since its inception in 2018. Since 2023, Kelsey has led Real Talk’s Connecting Queer Communities project.
![Dee Stacey](https://www.real-talk.org/wp-content/uploads/2022/06/Dee-Certified.jpg)
Dee Stacey
Dee has been a Certified Sexual Health Educator since 2018, working for Real Talk, Saleema Noon and for her own business, Sexual Health with Dee. She is passionate about empowering folks through education that is inclusive, relatable and free of judgment. Dee also holds a BA in Psychology and has been a Youth Care Counsellor for over 10 years.
![Sharon Lillian](https://www.real-talk.org/wp-content/uploads/2022/02/Untitled-1.png)
Sharon Lillian
Sharon has been a workshop facilitator with Real Talk since 2019. They have completed their Certified Sexual Health Educator curriculum, and are working towards completing their practicum hours. Sharon also works as a Community Connector for Building Caring Communities and posAbilities. In 2023, Sharon was instrumental in running the SIXpo sexual health conference – which centered the sexual health and wellness of people with disabilities.
![Larissa Gunkel](https://www.real-talk.org/wp-content/uploads/2022/02/Larissa-Headshot-1-scaled-e1644457115165.jpeg)
Larissa Gunkel
Hi, my full name is Lara Nadeszna Gunkel. Common name Larissa. I am on Disability. I am a part time Peer Facilitator for Real Talk. I have a sweet, caring, creative personality and other freelance part time jobs. I’m creative and I’m part of dating and social events committees within the inclusion community!
![Liz Etmanski](https://www.real-talk.org/wp-content/uploads/2024/01/Untitled-drawing.jpg)
Liz Etmanski
Liz (she / her) is a Peer Facilitator for Real Talk. She is also a multidisciplinary artist based in the Lower Mainland. Having won an award for her artistic passions in Secondary School, she went on to become the first person with Down Syndrome to graduate from the Emily Carr University of Art and Design.
![Ashley Whitehead](https://www.real-talk.org/wp-content/uploads/2024/07/Ashley-Certified.jpg)
Ashley Whitehead
Ashley (they / them) is a Certified Sexual Health Educator and performance artist. Combining the two fields, they use humour and play to create inclusive, sex-positive, informative content and interactions.
Ashley’s Lip Service shows have been runaway smash hits on the Fringe Festival circuit, using a combination of original songs, clowning, and dance to discuss sexual health topics in an entertaining, irreverent manner.
![Ry Avola](https://www.real-talk.org/wp-content/uploads/2024/08/Untitled-drawing-1.jpg)
Ry Avola
Ry (he / they) is a sexual health educator, facilitator, program developer – and an avid proponent of creative learning, critical awareness and healthy relationships education. Ry has worked with Saleema Noon Sexual Health Educators’ iGuy program, and currently acts as lead facilitator in the YWCA’s Date Safe program. Ry has a BA in Social Justice and Peace Studies and an MA in Globalization and the Human Condition.
![Zainab](https://www.real-talk.org/wp-content/uploads/2024/04/Extra-08.png)
Zainab
Zainab (she / they) has been working as a sexual health educator with Real Talk since 2021. She has a Bachelor of Science in Nursing degree and has worked in acute care, primary care, and community health promotion. Zainab is also a multidisciplinary artist. She volunteers at a weekly therapeutic art group, leading opening and closing activities based in creativity and embodiment. Zainab has a passion for planting seeds of healing, and strives to share messages of empowerment, autonomy, personal choice, consent, and boundaries.
![Jenn Williams](https://www.real-talk.org/wp-content/uploads/2024/08/Untitled-drawing-2.jpg)
Jenn Williams
Jenn (she / her) is a Certified Sexual Health Educator with a passion for accessible and comprehensive sexual health education. Jenn also works as a Co-ordinator for the Elizabeth Bagshaw Clinic. With her work, Jenn seeks to amplify the voices, stories, and concerns of minority groups.
![Dr. Sarah Schulman](https://www.real-talk.org/wp-content/uploads/2020/10/Sarah1-1-300x295-1.jpg)
Dr. Sarah Schulman
As a sociologist, Sarah is fascinated by what makes individuals, families, and policymakers tick. She’s worked with federal, regional, and local governments in 6 countries to shift how policies are made and measured. She holds a Doctorate in Social Policy from Oxford University, where she was a Rhodes Scholar, and a Masters of Education from Stanford University. In 2015, Sarah became a Metcalf Foundation Innovation Fellow. Fun facts: Sarah was once a sting agent. And she’s a mediocre tap dancer.
![Rheanna Toy](https://www.real-talk.org/wp-content/uploads/2022/02/1.jpeg)
Rheanna Toy
Rheanna is a video producer, videographer, and editor. Her career began after she graduated from Simon Fraser University with a BFA in Film Production, after which she worked in documentary post-production. From there, she began creating videos for a wide range of organizations, businesses, and artists. Rheanna has worked with Real Talk since its conception, and feels strongly about Real Talk’s goal to spread information about relationships and sexual health from a variety of perspectives. She’s excited to continue to work on Real Talk videos. See her work.
FAQ
How do people use Real Talk?
Sometimes supporters like friends, parents and staff will watch some Real Talk videos with a person they support as a way of starting an awkward conversation.
Sometimes folks show up at our free events to listen to conversations on dating, love, relationships, and sex – or to ask questions of their own and get reliable answers from a Certified Sexual Health Educator.
Sometimes supporters come to our Approachable Support Workshops to learn how to provide better sexual health support.
How much does Real Talk cost?
There is no cost to any individual or organization to watch Real Talk videos or come to Real Talk events. Real Talk is funded by the Public Health Agency of Canada, and we provide our services for free in Greater Vancouver to adults with cognitive disabilities, and to the people who support them.
Even if a person is not eligible for CLBC funding, they are still welcome to come to our events free of charge.
My organization supports people with cognitive disabilities. What can Real Talk do for me?
If you are in Greater Vancouver, Real Talk can provide sexual health education workshops for the people your organization supports. Real Talk can provide professional development workshops for your staff team so that they are better able to support individuals’ sexual health.
Both of these are free.
(If you are outside Greater Vancouver, do reach out as we may be able to accommodate you.)
The person I support has never mentioned an interest in dating, romance, or sex. Is Real Talk relevant for them?
People with cognitive disabilities are often assumed to be non-sexual and non-romantic unless they demonstrate otherwise. This can make it harder for them to bring up their hopes, dreams, and preferences around dating & relationships.
It’s possible the person you support may be interested in dating & sex, but may feel too shy to discuss it.
Also, people with cognitive disabilities are often excluded from formal high school sex ed classes. If they’re not invited out to parties or events with their classmates, they may also miss out on the informal peer education most of us get around dating norms.
Without this information, in adulthood they can run into problems around understanding consent & boundaries. There are lots of Real Talk videos about consent and dating norms. As well, we discuss consent at every one of our workshops.
This is useful information every adult should have.
Still curious if Real Talk is relevant for the person you support? Check out this video.
I think my family member could benefit from Real Talk, but I’m concerned that your values are very different from mine…
People are most likely to get their values and ethics from their families.
At Real Talk, we don’t tell a person what they should or should not do.
We do try to provide them with information to make informed decisions for themselves.
We do believe that people have a right to information about how their bodies work, and why they might have certain feelings.
We do believe that all genders and orientations have a right to dignity and respect, but we don’t tell anyone what their own values must be.
Want to Know More?
If you’re curious about anything to do with Real Talk, or if you want to give feedback or suggestions, please don’t hesitate to reach out to us at: